Introduction to Babymaking, the blog

My significant other and I (I'll henceforth call him "DH") started trying to get pregnant about six months before our wedding was scheduled. I expected this to be a long process, since my mother had miscarriages. And however misguided that notion might have been (there are plenty of reasoned arguments out there saying most types of miscarriages are not hereditary), the process has turned out to be as arduous as I had expected. And then some. In all honesty, we weren't really "trying" for the first two months. The wait-and-see mentality governed, and frankly, I wasn't so keen on the idea of being 6 mos pregnant in my wedding dress. And like I said, I thought it would take forever. I just didn't anticipate the whys and what effect the causes would have on my psyche, my every moment of every night and every day, my relationships, and my approach to pregnancy in general.

The third month we did start trying. I decided the thought of not being 3+ months pregnant at my wedding was far worse than the thought of maybe having to try to hide a little weight gain and fake-sip the champagne. I also started to think, true to my perfectionist form, if I can't get pregnant in three months of unprotected sex, maybe I'll never be able to get pregnant(!). Baby fever had set in, full force. And it worked. Actually trying (charting, using pre-seed, timing things well, doing it a LOT) resulted in pregnancy that first month. I was elated and my further blog posts begin with times prior to the first "BFP!" so I'll leave the details for the posts that follow.

As I've progressed in this process I've learned a lot. And one of the most important things I've learned is that, whatever your situation, you are not alone. This is, of course, a cliche but sometimes, in our very darkest and most desperate moments, cliches will do. And in less dark and less desperate but just as confused and frustrated times, it helps to have the support of others who really know what you are going through. Who not only empathize but who have lived through it. My hope is that pieces of my story will resemble pieces of yours and that you will find some of the hope, solace, and information that you have been seeking. And in this interactive medium, I hope to find answers too, and people to share the process with. This process that gives so many women something so intimate in common. It's my humble opinion that to miss the opportunity to connect with other women journeying through this time together, would be a monumental and inexcusable waste.

So I welcome you to read, comment, and share your own stories, opinions, and understanding. That's what this blog is about.